Why We Don't Do Gifts! The Most Meaningful Present You Can Give

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Sending out much love to you all around the world from us. Breathe and Flow HQ has been pretty busy this week with a new arrival to our family. We are all doing well as we embark upon this exciting and beautiful new journey with two children. They gift is us with their pure loving energy, always reminding us to live life with curiosity and wonder; focusing on the little things, and being in the moment.

As the holiday season approaches for many people, the world often seems to move at warp speed—shopping lists grow, decorations sparkle, and the pressure to find the “perfect gift” intensifies.

But what if the most meaningful gifts didn’t come in a box at all? What if they weren’t things, but experiences, connections, and gestures that truly matter?

This week, we’re diving into the art of giving gifts that align with mindfulness, minimalism, and heartfelt intention. Let’s explore how we can bring more simplicity, thoughtfulness, and love into our giving this season.

Has Gift Giving Lost It’s Meaning?

In today’s world, the impact of consumerism on gift giving is hard to ignore. The holiday season, in particular, often becomes a whirlwind of shopping sprees, crowded malls, and endless online orders. The pressure to buy gifts can overshadow the true spirit of giving, turning what should be a joyful act into a stressful obligation.

The emphasis on physical gifts can lead to a cycle of materialism, where the value of a gift is measured by its price tag rather than the thought behind it. This focus on material possessions can create a sense of obligation and stress, rather than joy and generosity.

Children, in particular, are focused heavily on lists of things they want around this time (many thanks to the hundreds of commercials telling them they have to have the newest bicycle/watch/game) and from a young age learn that wanting more, newer, bigger, and more fashionable is the key to having it all and being satisfied.

Mountains of presents, some not even looked at or played with, and frazzled parents, partners, and families who have stretched their bank balance and patience to save for, order, and wrap the perfect gift. The bigger and more expensive the gift, the more you love someone, right? And for some, this carries on into adulthood, only the gifts and lists get more extreme. We all know someone who has a house full of stuff, a garage full of stuff, oh, and a storage facility too… but none of it seems to really bring lasting happiness or fulfillment. So what’s the secret to the perfect gift which leaves lasting happiness and connection and moving beyond material gifts?

What Makes a Gift Truly Special?

Before we jump into ideas, let’s pause and consider: what makes a gift meaningful?

Can you remember the last time somebody gave you a gift that moved you, made you feel valued, understood, and loved? What was it that made it so special to you?

In most cases, it’s not the price tag or size of a gift but the thought, love, and time behind it. In fact, often the best gifts are not physical things at all. In a world that’s increasingly focused on “stuff,” giving the best gift that reflects simplicity and connection can bring more joy to both the giver and receiver.

When to Give Gifts

Society loves to tell us when it’s a great idea to buy things for people: birthdays, religious holidays, anniversaries… the list goes on. Greeting cards are made for every ‘occasion,’ every holiday has a date in the calendar and a suggested gift list. Online sellers hype up discounts and offers around certain holidays, and we end up lurching from one present-buying period to the next.

In our lives, we’ve chosen to approach gift-giving a bit differently. While we do exchange gifts, we don’t tie them to specific holidays, birthdays, or anniversaries. Instead of the pressure of buying something for a particular date, we focus on thoughtful, spontaneous gestures. If one of us sees something the other would truly enjoy or benefit from, we get it—no occasion required. What we value most is not material things but the time, presence, and meaningful moments we can share.Coming to this awareness starts from a place of understanding yourself. Try this guided meditation if you’re curious to go deeper and explore your own awakening.

For us, the greatest gift is giving each other our full attention, being present in our conversations, and really listening to one another.

This approach extends to how we celebrate milestones and holidays, often opting for experiences over possessions. Traveling has become our tradition—whether it’s exploring new countries, or taking a road trip closer to home. These adventures allow us to step out of our comfort zones, connect with each other, and create memories far more valuable than anything we could buy.

We believe that, in today’s busy world, time has become the most precious commodity. By prioritizing shared experiences, whether through travel, conversations, or even video calls with loved ones, we aim to focus on what truly matters. This holiday season, like many before, we’re embracing the gift of presence over presents, and we encourage others to do the same.

What Matters Most to People, Really?

During the pandemic, the thing most people missed wasn’t material possessions. It was connection. People came up with creative ways to spend time with one another, conducting online video calls, hosting virtual quizzes, meeting outside, and making more phone calls. For many, it was a reminder of how important quality time with others is to happiness.

When reflecting on life’s priorities, people often express a desire for things that money can’t buy—intangibles that bring meaning and fulfillment.

In her deeply moving book The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, palliative care nurse Bronnie Ware reveals the profound reflections shared by her patients in their final days. Her work highlights that, when facing the end of life, material possessions and superficial accomplishments fade into insignificance, leaving behind the true priorities that matter: relationships, authenticity, and presence.

The most common regrets Ware documented include wishing they had lived a life true to themselves rather than what others expected, not expressing their feelings more openly, working too much at the expense of meaningful moments, and not staying connected with loved ones.

These insights serve as a powerful reminder that the greatest gifts we can offer are not things, but our time, presence, and love. Rather than focusing on extravagant presents, we should consider how we can share our attention and create lasting memories with those who matter most. Time, after all, is the only gift that can never be replaced.

So, when choosing a gift or an experience for someone, consider how you can help fulfill these universal wishes—whether through time together, shared experiences, or tools for personal growth and well-being. Here are some of the best ideas for thoughtful ways to show your love.